Well this is always a fun topic of conversation between any persons who have any kind of relationship. Especially in an intimate one. Relationships are based on a few key elements and since they seem so simple but are very complex.
I've found that no matter how simple a lie seems it never is simple.If one you lie about your age, you still lied. In my opinion nobody is 100% real. Sure you can say and believe 99% of what is said is real but there is still that 1% that is still untrue. When your partner lies to you about something so petty the likeliness of you really ever truly believing them again. What are you gonna do? Are you going to persecute somebody because they do what human nature does? I don't believe deceitfulness is acceptable on any level but things that are menial ('I'll be 29 this year' knowing your ass is 29 plus 3) is what it is. It isn't hurting but helping you to not feel so damn old!
When a person is in love judgement is often clouded because we never want to see any fault in the person that we are so in love/lust whatever. Everybody as a human being who is capable to process complete thought patterns to this caliber are capable of feeling euphoric about being in love. We all want those happy endings. So people really do have a clinical disease but fuck that, they can keep that craziness to their selves. In order to really love somebody you have to have trust. Not trust in another but trust in yourself.You have to trust yourself first to make the best decision for your children and yourself. If you have warning signs ya man/girl is a cheater and a liar but you still refuse to entertain that, you are just as guilty and put faith in another you didn't first put in yourself. I'm not saying its not gonna hurt anymore I'm just saying be pissed at yourself first and foremost.You are the only person who truly knows whats best for you. Friends, family can offer advice from personal experience but they can not make your decision for you. The problem is we never listen to the logical proven facts we look at the emotional facts. If you can't trust somebody how can you earnestly allow that person to have you sexually, emotionally, mentally? You can't. The heart and head will always be conflict if you don't trust yourself.
What I'm saying is this: : LOVE YOURSELF for all that you are, UNDERSTAND that you are human TRUST yourself to do what is in your best interest. Don't expect anything from anybody without trusting that you know the appropriate response. If you don't have it for yourself , there will be nobody that will have it for you.
Until Next Time......
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Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Something Real for my Ladies
So we all have differences in views on whats acceptable in a relationship. Here are some of my thoughts. *These are not proven facts just my opinion on the following issues*
Ladies, I want to address all the queens first. Ya'll hold your own, are independent and don't need a man for shit! To be considered a queen in a relationship ya'll have to act like a queen on your own. Ya'll ladies take care of home, your kids, and your man to the fullest and always act with dignity and respect. When a hoe (later discussed) gets out of line and tries to show her ass you laugh and shake your head because you know this girl has no sense and can never be on the level your on. You ladies have your own careers that was obtained through your hard work sweat, tears and frustration, your own homes (ain't no busta putting you out of shit), credit (not bad credit because unlike hoe, hoodrat, whore, and lazy bitch you paid your bills) and a meaning of self worth. You demand respect and nothing less is acceptable. Pat yourselves on the back for playing your role as queen to the fullest. You deserve the crown!
Wifey, ya'll know who ya'll are. You ladies get so much respect from me. Ya'll carry and raise a mans child, cook his dinner , wash his clothes, keep his house clean, keep him satisfied and cater to his every need. There is nothing wrong with this other then where is your money? What are your goals? You CAN NOT LIVE FOR ANOTHER BEFORE LIVING FOR YOURSELF FIRST. Alot of the times I've seen these woman break their backs time after time for another when often neglecting themselves. To live selflessly is admirable but you have to make yourself happy. Love your children, watch them grow and guide them to be better human beings then the generation before. Teach your daughters that you can't depend on somebody else for your happiness, teach them how to play an equal part in a relationship, intimate or not. Teach them their self worth, but first find it yourself. Teach your sons the kind of woman that would do right by him and make him feel like a man while being a man. Teach him how to respect women because these days alot of men don't.
Hoes ( some also called slut, whore, trick etc), I have to say this to you, there is no reason for you to not love yourself. Sex is supposed to be something sacred not something you do for fun or to make a living. You in your own right can be a queen. The years of being degraded and disrespected are things of the past. DEMAND RESPECT! You have the divine right to live your life surrounded by love and respect. A lot of women have overcame a lot of abuse, from lovers, family, friends and the one that does the most damage is yourself. You will only attract the kind of man that ain't shit if you don't act like YOU ARE THE SHIT. Never settle and its ok if you are alone, sometimes that just where you need to be. I don't judge anybody for anything because I have enough skeletons in my own closet. If you're tricking to provide for your children, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do; but to be a hoe because its 'fun' is ignorant and makes me want to smack the hell out of you silly bitches. In any relationship always make them feel you are irreplaceable. Be the kind of woman that a man wants in their life, the kind of mother that teaches her children the importance of respect and determination, be the type of friend that people know are genuine. LOVE YOURSELF and remember that YOU WILL PERSEVERE.
To any type of female remember that men are hear to provide, protect and profess. They are not needed but appreciated. Stop playing childish games, a grown ass man has no time for this shit. If you stopped focusing on how much the last nicca hurt you and did you wrong focus on the blessing of another chance standing right in front of you. Women are emotional and complex and sometimes its hard for a man to understand that because men are a more simple type of person. Most don't hear or see you're looking for a compliment when you get a new haircut. They don't understand the need to feel needed that's not their fault ladies, its just how they were made. If you have a good man appreciate him, never make him feel than anything less than a man.
So until next time............
*Next I'll put something real in your ear about fellas!*
Ladies, I want to address all the queens first. Ya'll hold your own, are independent and don't need a man for shit! To be considered a queen in a relationship ya'll have to act like a queen on your own. Ya'll ladies take care of home, your kids, and your man to the fullest and always act with dignity and respect. When a hoe (later discussed) gets out of line and tries to show her ass you laugh and shake your head because you know this girl has no sense and can never be on the level your on. You ladies have your own careers that was obtained through your hard work sweat, tears and frustration, your own homes (ain't no busta putting you out of shit), credit (not bad credit because unlike hoe, hoodrat, whore, and lazy bitch you paid your bills) and a meaning of self worth. You demand respect and nothing less is acceptable. Pat yourselves on the back for playing your role as queen to the fullest. You deserve the crown!
Wifey, ya'll know who ya'll are. You ladies get so much respect from me. Ya'll carry and raise a mans child, cook his dinner , wash his clothes, keep his house clean, keep him satisfied and cater to his every need. There is nothing wrong with this other then where is your money? What are your goals? You CAN NOT LIVE FOR ANOTHER BEFORE LIVING FOR YOURSELF FIRST. Alot of the times I've seen these woman break their backs time after time for another when often neglecting themselves. To live selflessly is admirable but you have to make yourself happy. Love your children, watch them grow and guide them to be better human beings then the generation before. Teach your daughters that you can't depend on somebody else for your happiness, teach them how to play an equal part in a relationship, intimate or not. Teach them their self worth, but first find it yourself. Teach your sons the kind of woman that would do right by him and make him feel like a man while being a man. Teach him how to respect women because these days alot of men don't.
Hoes ( some also called slut, whore, trick etc), I have to say this to you, there is no reason for you to not love yourself. Sex is supposed to be something sacred not something you do for fun or to make a living. You in your own right can be a queen. The years of being degraded and disrespected are things of the past. DEMAND RESPECT! You have the divine right to live your life surrounded by love and respect. A lot of women have overcame a lot of abuse, from lovers, family, friends and the one that does the most damage is yourself. You will only attract the kind of man that ain't shit if you don't act like YOU ARE THE SHIT. Never settle and its ok if you are alone, sometimes that just where you need to be. I don't judge anybody for anything because I have enough skeletons in my own closet. If you're tricking to provide for your children, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do; but to be a hoe because its 'fun' is ignorant and makes me want to smack the hell out of you silly bitches. In any relationship always make them feel you are irreplaceable. Be the kind of woman that a man wants in their life, the kind of mother that teaches her children the importance of respect and determination, be the type of friend that people know are genuine. LOVE YOURSELF and remember that YOU WILL PERSEVERE.
To any type of female remember that men are hear to provide, protect and profess. They are not needed but appreciated. Stop playing childish games, a grown ass man has no time for this shit. If you stopped focusing on how much the last nicca hurt you and did you wrong focus on the blessing of another chance standing right in front of you. Women are emotional and complex and sometimes its hard for a man to understand that because men are a more simple type of person. Most don't hear or see you're looking for a compliment when you get a new haircut. They don't understand the need to feel needed that's not their fault ladies, its just how they were made. If you have a good man appreciate him, never make him feel than anything less than a man.
So until next time............
*Next I'll put something real in your ear about fellas!*
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