I know that I've addressed this issue in previous blogs but for some reason this keeps sticking out in my mind. I guess because I've played both sides of this fence maybe, who knows with my busy mind.
I know that I've discussed cheating in a previous blog and my feelings are kind of mixed with that. I've been a 'relationship' where I was the other woman. For a while that was acceptable to me because I didn't want the bullshit the wifey went through I just wanted to have fun and do my thang.
On the opposite side of the fence my son's father and I were going through a rough time in our relationship and I couldn't or wouldn't give him what it was he needed as a man so therefore he stepped out and had a sideline ho. In my heart I knew but he refused to give me confirmation. I wasn't sure how much more confirmation I needed because he would lie about going to work, where his money went, and why he didn't come home until the next day. I'm not stupid but I guess I was in denial. I had once read a text message this sideline ho sent discussing about buying him something. Of course I was furious, but I was hurt. So just like any other hood bitch would I brought her to her like 'don't buy my man shit whatever he needs I got him' blah blah blah. That was a fucking joke. As our relationship progressively got worse it resulted in him leaving and of course running straight to this home wrecking bitch. I was livid and heart broken so for a female like me to have all those mixed emotions, and I guess guilt was in there somewhere, it was not good. I went on a rampage and was determined to ruin both of their lives.
After almost a week of him being inconegro, not calling his son, it was pretty much fuck us, I ran into both of them at the store. I seen her first and then seen him trying to hide in the car. The funny thing was he never even seen me coming until I was repeatedly whipping his ass in the front seat of the car. She still didn't even know what was going on until she walks to her car and I flipping the fuck out. I let her know she was marked and once I had the opportunity to get her, I was gonna beat the shit out of her.I caused so much of a scene I knew police where coming so I left. About a week after this episode my son's father comes to my house and of course we wind up fucking. I guess I thought if I put it on him better then her he'd come home. He didn't he left to go get her from work and continued to play that with her, not me. I seen her parked across the street at my family's house and decided that I was going to have a conversation with her. I wanted her to know how I felt and what the situation between he and I really was. She claims he didn't tell her we were still together only that we still lived together. Fuck outta here bitch how fucking stupid are you?!?! The situation played out and she called herself being 'real' but still being a fucking liar. I expected it from him but damn I guess I thought I was gonna pull the female card and maybe she would sympathize with me and tell me the truth. I guessed wrong.
Situations like this are always tricky. You want to be happy but if a man/woman already has somebody and they are stepping out on them with you what makes you think they won't do it you? I never knew or care to know what it felt like being the one who was betrayed, but now that I know I won't do that to another. Its not fair to anybody involved. Some women like to play this position because it means they advance to what ever social or financial level they are looking for, but its not right. If I could tell all the women that I messed with their men I would. I would keep it 100% real because its fucked up the part I played and maybe that will help them to cut loose from the dogging ass men.Not all men or dogs but if you find one that isn't don't dog him out. Women are much liars then men so therefore the likeliness of a woman getting caught up on some humbug shit is not alot. Men on the other hand will lie and lie some more to cover the first lie but its not even believable. The point I'm trying to make is this: if you are unhappy at home TELL THEM, COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS AND FEELINGS! You can't expect some body's crystal ball to be functioning all the time. For all you sideline Ho's reformed or otherwise think about how that would make you feel.
Until next time....
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Monday, June 27, 2011
Something Real On Cheating
So at some point in all of our lives we've all had to deal with cheating, wether it was you doin the cheating, the one being cheated on, or the one somebody is cheating with we all know how the story goes. This is how I make some kind of logic out of all the nonsense and noise.
First off, in order to keep your partner happy and home you have to satisfy and stimulate them in a physical, emotional and mental kind of way. Men are more on the physical while women are on the emotional and intellectual stimulation.
I'm going to start off with the fellas, I understand the need to be staisfied and if a woman is uncapable of providing that satisfaction you will proceed to the next. What I don't understand is why you fucking your sideline ho with no condom? Why are ya'll sounding like Usher singing 'Confessions'? Ya'll trippin with that shit. You should always keep home happy and if you're not happy at home leave. Why would you fuck a bitch that gave you the pussy without thinkin about it the first time never mind twice, and if she has no problem fucking up your home then you already know the type of bitch she is. Ya'll put too much trust in these hookers thinkin they weren't gonna tell ya wife/girl/baby mama or their girlfriends who in turn told the whole city. Wisen up man. Keep ya home happy and only give them other bitches dick. Keep your hoes in check and your indiscretions private and you'll save yourself alot of drama. PS: always keep up on your lies because women don't forget shit especially if it was supsect as soon as it left your mouth.
Ladies, now if your man takes care of home meaning your kids are taken care, your bills are paid, you stay fly and he makes you feel like his only what is the big deal? A man is going to be a man and they will step out in some point in their lives but be angry, upset, fuck his face/head up and let him know he fucked up. Make him think about what the hell he did. You have two choices allow him to stay and forgive him or put his ass out and move to the next one. Most of ya'll will allow him to stay and be like fuck it and won't even make him pay for his dumbness. Just remember your intuition is your guide and if your heart is telling you he fucked up most of the time he did, and will eventually tell on himself.
Love is a give and take type of deal, you'll give and the other take or you'll take while the other gives. Either way always make life giving decisions and choose what battles are worth fighting. Easier said then done but a smart woman will know when she has a good man and vice versa. Trust and communication go hand in hand and without one your relationship will be destined to fail. Just be smart enough to trust yourself before another and it will never steer you wrong.
Stay tuned for the next topic: baby daddy/baby mama drama
First off, in order to keep your partner happy and home you have to satisfy and stimulate them in a physical, emotional and mental kind of way. Men are more on the physical while women are on the emotional and intellectual stimulation.
I'm going to start off with the fellas, I understand the need to be staisfied and if a woman is uncapable of providing that satisfaction you will proceed to the next. What I don't understand is why you fucking your sideline ho with no condom? Why are ya'll sounding like Usher singing 'Confessions'? Ya'll trippin with that shit. You should always keep home happy and if you're not happy at home leave. Why would you fuck a bitch that gave you the pussy without thinkin about it the first time never mind twice, and if she has no problem fucking up your home then you already know the type of bitch she is. Ya'll put too much trust in these hookers thinkin they weren't gonna tell ya wife/girl/baby mama or their girlfriends who in turn told the whole city. Wisen up man. Keep ya home happy and only give them other bitches dick. Keep your hoes in check and your indiscretions private and you'll save yourself alot of drama. PS: always keep up on your lies because women don't forget shit especially if it was supsect as soon as it left your mouth.
Ladies, now if your man takes care of home meaning your kids are taken care, your bills are paid, you stay fly and he makes you feel like his only what is the big deal? A man is going to be a man and they will step out in some point in their lives but be angry, upset, fuck his face/head up and let him know he fucked up. Make him think about what the hell he did. You have two choices allow him to stay and forgive him or put his ass out and move to the next one. Most of ya'll will allow him to stay and be like fuck it and won't even make him pay for his dumbness. Just remember your intuition is your guide and if your heart is telling you he fucked up most of the time he did, and will eventually tell on himself.
Love is a give and take type of deal, you'll give and the other take or you'll take while the other gives. Either way always make life giving decisions and choose what battles are worth fighting. Easier said then done but a smart woman will know when she has a good man and vice versa. Trust and communication go hand in hand and without one your relationship will be destined to fail. Just be smart enough to trust yourself before another and it will never steer you wrong.
Stay tuned for the next topic: baby daddy/baby mama drama
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Something Real for my Ladies
So we all have differences in views on whats acceptable in a relationship. Here are some of my thoughts. *These are not proven facts just my opinion on the following issues*
Ladies, I want to address all the queens first. Ya'll hold your own, are independent and don't need a man for shit! To be considered a queen in a relationship ya'll have to act like a queen on your own. Ya'll ladies take care of home, your kids, and your man to the fullest and always act with dignity and respect. When a hoe (later discussed) gets out of line and tries to show her ass you laugh and shake your head because you know this girl has no sense and can never be on the level your on. You ladies have your own careers that was obtained through your hard work sweat, tears and frustration, your own homes (ain't no busta putting you out of shit), credit (not bad credit because unlike hoe, hoodrat, whore, and lazy bitch you paid your bills) and a meaning of self worth. You demand respect and nothing less is acceptable. Pat yourselves on the back for playing your role as queen to the fullest. You deserve the crown!
Wifey, ya'll know who ya'll are. You ladies get so much respect from me. Ya'll carry and raise a mans child, cook his dinner , wash his clothes, keep his house clean, keep him satisfied and cater to his every need. There is nothing wrong with this other then where is your money? What are your goals? You CAN NOT LIVE FOR ANOTHER BEFORE LIVING FOR YOURSELF FIRST. Alot of the times I've seen these woman break their backs time after time for another when often neglecting themselves. To live selflessly is admirable but you have to make yourself happy. Love your children, watch them grow and guide them to be better human beings then the generation before. Teach your daughters that you can't depend on somebody else for your happiness, teach them how to play an equal part in a relationship, intimate or not. Teach them their self worth, but first find it yourself. Teach your sons the kind of woman that would do right by him and make him feel like a man while being a man. Teach him how to respect women because these days alot of men don't.
Hoes ( some also called slut, whore, trick etc), I have to say this to you, there is no reason for you to not love yourself. Sex is supposed to be something sacred not something you do for fun or to make a living. You in your own right can be a queen. The years of being degraded and disrespected are things of the past. DEMAND RESPECT! You have the divine right to live your life surrounded by love and respect. A lot of women have overcame a lot of abuse, from lovers, family, friends and the one that does the most damage is yourself. You will only attract the kind of man that ain't shit if you don't act like YOU ARE THE SHIT. Never settle and its ok if you are alone, sometimes that just where you need to be. I don't judge anybody for anything because I have enough skeletons in my own closet. If you're tricking to provide for your children, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do; but to be a hoe because its 'fun' is ignorant and makes me want to smack the hell out of you silly bitches. In any relationship always make them feel you are irreplaceable. Be the kind of woman that a man wants in their life, the kind of mother that teaches her children the importance of respect and determination, be the type of friend that people know are genuine. LOVE YOURSELF and remember that YOU WILL PERSEVERE.
To any type of female remember that men are hear to provide, protect and profess. They are not needed but appreciated. Stop playing childish games, a grown ass man has no time for this shit. If you stopped focusing on how much the last nicca hurt you and did you wrong focus on the blessing of another chance standing right in front of you. Women are emotional and complex and sometimes its hard for a man to understand that because men are a more simple type of person. Most don't hear or see you're looking for a compliment when you get a new haircut. They don't understand the need to feel needed that's not their fault ladies, its just how they were made. If you have a good man appreciate him, never make him feel than anything less than a man.
So until next time............
*Next I'll put something real in your ear about fellas!*
Ladies, I want to address all the queens first. Ya'll hold your own, are independent and don't need a man for shit! To be considered a queen in a relationship ya'll have to act like a queen on your own. Ya'll ladies take care of home, your kids, and your man to the fullest and always act with dignity and respect. When a hoe (later discussed) gets out of line and tries to show her ass you laugh and shake your head because you know this girl has no sense and can never be on the level your on. You ladies have your own careers that was obtained through your hard work sweat, tears and frustration, your own homes (ain't no busta putting you out of shit), credit (not bad credit because unlike hoe, hoodrat, whore, and lazy bitch you paid your bills) and a meaning of self worth. You demand respect and nothing less is acceptable. Pat yourselves on the back for playing your role as queen to the fullest. You deserve the crown!
Wifey, ya'll know who ya'll are. You ladies get so much respect from me. Ya'll carry and raise a mans child, cook his dinner , wash his clothes, keep his house clean, keep him satisfied and cater to his every need. There is nothing wrong with this other then where is your money? What are your goals? You CAN NOT LIVE FOR ANOTHER BEFORE LIVING FOR YOURSELF FIRST. Alot of the times I've seen these woman break their backs time after time for another when often neglecting themselves. To live selflessly is admirable but you have to make yourself happy. Love your children, watch them grow and guide them to be better human beings then the generation before. Teach your daughters that you can't depend on somebody else for your happiness, teach them how to play an equal part in a relationship, intimate or not. Teach them their self worth, but first find it yourself. Teach your sons the kind of woman that would do right by him and make him feel like a man while being a man. Teach him how to respect women because these days alot of men don't.
Hoes ( some also called slut, whore, trick etc), I have to say this to you, there is no reason for you to not love yourself. Sex is supposed to be something sacred not something you do for fun or to make a living. You in your own right can be a queen. The years of being degraded and disrespected are things of the past. DEMAND RESPECT! You have the divine right to live your life surrounded by love and respect. A lot of women have overcame a lot of abuse, from lovers, family, friends and the one that does the most damage is yourself. You will only attract the kind of man that ain't shit if you don't act like YOU ARE THE SHIT. Never settle and its ok if you are alone, sometimes that just where you need to be. I don't judge anybody for anything because I have enough skeletons in my own closet. If you're tricking to provide for your children, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do; but to be a hoe because its 'fun' is ignorant and makes me want to smack the hell out of you silly bitches. In any relationship always make them feel you are irreplaceable. Be the kind of woman that a man wants in their life, the kind of mother that teaches her children the importance of respect and determination, be the type of friend that people know are genuine. LOVE YOURSELF and remember that YOU WILL PERSEVERE.
To any type of female remember that men are hear to provide, protect and profess. They are not needed but appreciated. Stop playing childish games, a grown ass man has no time for this shit. If you stopped focusing on how much the last nicca hurt you and did you wrong focus on the blessing of another chance standing right in front of you. Women are emotional and complex and sometimes its hard for a man to understand that because men are a more simple type of person. Most don't hear or see you're looking for a compliment when you get a new haircut. They don't understand the need to feel needed that's not their fault ladies, its just how they were made. If you have a good man appreciate him, never make him feel than anything less than a man.
So until next time............
*Next I'll put something real in your ear about fellas!*
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